Pursuing Happiness is a Trap

Arc Sosangyo
8 min readMay 13, 2021
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Pursuing happiness is marketed by our society as something that we can obtain. And that’s where our mental health started to screw up.

If you are feeling anxious or depressed and have met me years ago, I can make it worse by saying happiness comes from within you, or you just lack gratitude that’s why you’re not happy. Looking back, how I wish time machine exist, so that I can go back in time and punch my former self so hard, my near sighted eye will see it clearly. Good heavens, I’ve never been so wrong in my life. Good thing life let me experienced quarter life crisis to show me the error in my beliefs. Experiencing an endless loop of anxiety and depression teaches me how society are so wrong about our belief that pursuing happiness is the ultimate goal in life.

Patterns are the same

My initial plan is to begin this article by telling a story of a once famous celebrity who committed suicide this 21st century. Just like any writer who wants a good, unique, and accurate story, I did my research and thoroughly read stories from their rise to stardom to their unexpected suicide. Hours spent looking for a story left me with the dilemma on what should I put here. Don’t get the wrong idea. All their stories are worth mentioning and we can all learn a thing or two from them.

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Arc Sosangyo

Father | Husband | Self-help Author | Coder | Traveler